BEING HEARD…MORE THAN JUST BEING LISTENED TO

Picture by Anxious Katuruza, from the forthcoming book, FLOURISHING SPRING: Enhancing Children and Youth Participation and Leadership.

Written by Lightwell MpofuAfrica Community Publishing and Development Trust

Children and youth are still in shackles if we still need to worry that we might have to make a choice between being heard and being loved – being heard and being cared for and ultimately being heard and not being hated for the truth we speak. A recent baseline survey with 330 children and youth aged 8 to 24, revealed that over 80 percent of respondents long to be heard and long for their feelings to be respected by parents, caregivers and even teachers and other adults… The youngest children said they feared being beaten, starved, thrown out of their homes or even killed if they expressed themselves freely!

One young primary school writer actually writes: “Silence is a crime. If we children keep quiet about violence and abuse, no one is going to help us, but if we speak up, all the doors will open.”

Being Heard is more than just being listened to. It is more than just being given the microphone or the megaphone but it has more to do with what happens to the voice of the children after they have voiced out their concern. Is their voice shunned as mere bollocks lacking the sense and wisdom of age? Is it taken to be nothing further from fairy tales and wishful fantasies? Nothing can be further from the truth.

It certainly must evolve beyond this! Beyond the disease of only hearing the youth and children on special occasions like a superficial expensive suit or shoes that are only worn to weddings to impress the crowd yet too tight for comfort. The illusionary image that portrays children and youth as those fit only to be seen and not be heard is horrible to say the least.

The only way in which societies in the world over can sustainably be violence-free is through the respect of children and youth’s voices. The only way for us to overcome the epidemic of sexual violence and the scourge of all manner of violence and abuse against children is by the world taking time to clean its ears. It is time to swallow our pride and erroneous thoughts that make us think that mere old age is synonymous to knowledge about what all children and youth need. Nothing about children and youth can be decided without their involvement.

It is time that our minds open with a desire not just to hear for response but to fully understand the plight that children and youth face. It is such a time to empower and amplify their voice and ensure that they are heard.

True disability is a choice. It is to have perfectly functional eyes yet they do everything but see the plight of the oppressed. It is to have perfectly functional ears yet they are deaf to the blood-curdling screams of help-seekers. It is to have perfectly functional limbs yet with the inability to come to the aid of those who need help.

Dear reader…it is time to pay attention. To hear the voice that has always longed for our attention. That is the first step to a violence free world. That is the first step to being heard.

It begins with you!

Being Heard is one of the themes of the Sexual Violence Research Initiative Forumwe have been honored to attend in Rio, Brazil from the 18th to the 21st of September and more information on this will be covered in my next blog.

Below is a poem that I wrote to reflect the essence of being heard:

Being heard is more than a sojourning voice seeking for home in an ear

It is more than an individual pilgrimage

More than a soul’s longing for acceptance

It is a youth revolution

A desire not just for an ear to listen

But for hands and hearts as they’re moved by compassion

to spring to actio

It is about solidarity

The beauty of a unified voice

Magnified for change

It is about tenacity

The strength of a fearless voice

Strengthened by vision

It’s about courage

The passionate boldness of changing bad to good

Motivated by a love for peace

It’s about resilience

The will to stand despite odds

Driven by the desire to see dreams come true

It’s about youth empowerment and involvement in improving youths’ lives

It is not just flying with them in a talon grasp

But a release as we give them the ability to soar in uncharted skies…

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